Charlie.Coach Blog

You Are Not An Idea

People seek connection and community, so it makes sense that people connect themselves to ideas in order to form bonds with others. The problem is that when you identify with an idea, that is to say you are an -ist, you outsource your thinking to other members and...

If You Won’t Speak Your Truth, Others Will Speak For You

There is nothing more important, more inherently valuable and more powerful than the truth. Everyone has their own truth. What's yours? It can be nerve-wracking, scary and even dangerous to speak your truth. Whether it's the denial you have held on to for decades...

Don’t Panic – Seek More Information

We've all been there: something bad happens and we start to spiral thinking of all the horrible possibilities. For me today that was leaving my bag on the train. I got off and was halfway to the supermarket before I realised I didn't have my wallet because it was in...

Use Your Own Words

As a teacher I ask my students to prove they have understood the material by expressing it in their own words. We should also ask of ourselves when we are sharing our opinions and engaging in political debate: "Am I using my words, or am I parroting someone else."...

Who Wins in an Argument?

We put a lot of time and effort into winning, but we sometimes fail to recognise what "real" winning is as opposed to beating the other player. What do we gain when we "win" an argument? Maybe it's respect, a sense of accomplishment or the elation of demolishing a...

Blame and Perspective

Blame is built into the English language, and this affects us deeply, and silently. If I drop my mother's favourite china plate in the kitchen, in English we might say, "You dropped the plate!" You... I live in Japan, and in Japanese we might instead say お皿が落ちた! -...